Soupy Sundays: On Children, Cartoons and Gender (6)


Soupy Sundays is a discussion post at Geeky Chiquitas in which we talk about our opinions on certain topics.

This week's topic is on children, cartoons and gender.


When I was a child, my favorite cartoon was Power Rangers. I loved it so much I would actually wake up early to watch it on TV and would buy every single paraphernalia associated with it. Some of my other favorite shows were Yuyu Hakusho, which is an anime about fighting demons, and Pokemon, another anime (and I don't have to explain what that is because I'm sure EVERYONE has seen it at one point of their lives). Because of my cartoon choices, I was always branded as a 'tomboy' because I loved these things which people labeled as 'for boys.' But then again, when I was a kid I also LOVED wearing dresses and playing with dolls. So what does that say about me? Does that make me a girly girl or a tomboy? Or can I be a little bit of both?

In society, children are told what to do in a gender binary perspective. Boys cannot cry. Girls have to wear dresses. Boys should like blue, and girls should like pink. Girls should like Barbie, while boys should like cars. That's why people keep shoving it in their faces, and target certain 'boyish' things to boys and 'girly' things to girls. But the thing is, who is this almighty being that dictates what is considered boyish and girly? 

I did a little surveying and asked my little cousins. I found out that they didn't actually care. These children had no concept of gender, and they didn't care whether or not the main character of a show is a girl or a boy. My cousin James loves Elsa from Frozen as much as my other cousin Nica does. He loves Tinkerbell too and does not even care if it's a movie about fairies and pixie dust, and that the majority of the characters are female. Nica doesn't care that Power Rangers is a show that is targeted to boys; she watches it anyway. So who is this person that thinks that certain shows are just for boys or just for girls? Because the children don't actually give a damn - they watch these cartoons because they think the shows are funny, engaging, heartwarming or just plain awesome. They don't watch these shows because they're for boys or for girls. 

Children are pretty innocent beings, and the only reason why certain double standards exist is because children at such a young age are already being fed with close-minded thoughts by the people around them. The moment you scold a boy for watching Barbie and calling him gay for it, this etches into his mind and he grows up with the mentality that boys are not allowed to like Barbie, and that liking Barbie is a sign of homosexuality, when in fact it is not. The moment you tell a girl that she cannot like watching Yu-Gi-Oh or playing with cars, this gives her the false belief that a girl should only be capable of playing with dolls and watching shows about fairies. You restrict these children from developing and discovering who they are and what they want to do. You teach them to think in black and white, and tell them to ignore the grey areas in life. You turn them into drones, always playing by the rules dictated  by society - rules that shouldn't have existed in the first place.

If you leave children to like what they like, then wouldn't that lead to a more open and less judgmental society?

Soupy Sundays: On Cliches (5)


Soupy Sundays is a discussion post at Geeky Chiquitas in which we talk about our opinions on certain topics. This week's topic is on cliches.


ON CLICHÉS 

Some people really hate cliches. They say that some plot lines are so overused. Of course it's nice to find a plot which is new and fresh since we tend to see a lot of the same plot lines in every genre. It gets tiring to see all of the same kind of books over and over again. They may be written differently but are, in essence, the same.

It may be so but we think that some books that are cliches are actually nice and enjoyable. We believe that a book's greatness is based more on how it was written. Maybe a book might be a cliche but if it is written well, if the plot was given justice, then it would probably be great for us. There is also a reason for why certain topics become so popular. Maybe that topic was simply great or could be worked with at so many different angles that people found it good enough to be worth reading about over and over again.

We admit that it might be hard to come up with new, fresh topics since there are so many books that you can't help but think: "What's the use of trying to think of a new topic when probably every single one has already been done?" Well, you might think that all topics are covered but we believe that if you think hard enough, you'll find a topic that's new. If you really can't think of one, you can choose to use one that you think hasn't been used much.

There are a lot of plot lines that we want to read yet haven't read yet. Sometimes, we are disappointed about how there are so many books on a certain topic but none on another. On a past post, we listed down a couple of topics that we haven't seen yet in a book that we would probably like to read. There were about ten topics there and we believe that we even had more that we didn't list down anymore. (You can check it out here.)

Even though we would like to see new, fresh topics when we read a book, we cannot deny that there's something about cliches that is kinda comforting. The feeling when you read a book and you already know what is happening is just different. It gives this comforting feeling. Makes you feel safe like nothing's gonna surprise you or anything. You already know what generally happens so you don't feel the need to analyze everything. You can just relax while reading a cliche. 

In conclusion, we don't think that cliches are bad. We believe that a book should not be judged solely on its plot line but by it as a whole. Though we think of it as such, we would still like to see more unique topics. More books that cover new territories. Every plot is worth writing about because someone out there might be looking for a book like that so we hope that writers everywhere try as much as possible to write about different things. Audrey even saw a book on Goodreads that showed you how to sharpen pencils. If that isn't unique and different, we don't know what is.

What do you think about cliches? Leave a comment!

Soupy Sundays: On Racism (4)


Soupy Sundays is a weekly feature at Geeky Chiquitas, where we write discussion posts about our thoughts, feelings, and opinions about certain topics.

ON RACISM

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are talking to, or you yourself, say "I'm not racist but..." then said something totally racist after? This is the thing that we would like to talk about. Racism in all forms and kinds.

Racism doesn't necessarily mean a hatred for a certain race. Racism is when you stereotype people based on where they come from or what they look like. A lot of people think that just because they don't hate black people or look on the Chinese as frugal, that means they are not racist. This is not true. Being racist can happen when you say that a certain person is Asian because he/she is smart. It can be when you say that someone can't dance because they're white. Racism can be found in so many things, shown in so many ways, we have to be careful about what we say or do.

Some people believe themselves not to be racist because they do not think badly about any race. They also think that by saying they aren't racist, it absolves them of the racism that has come out of their mouth. We hate it when people say "Hey, I'm not racist but that guy has to be Chinese, he has such small eyes!" or when they say "I'm not racist but that dude is probably great at dancing! I mean he's black!". We've seen a lot of racist things in basically every form. As an insult. As a compliment (yeah we said compliment!). As an  observation. As a joke. It's in books, movies, shows, magazines, newspapers, basically everywhere.

It's very hard to avoid racism, whether it is in other people or in ourselves. Even we are guilty of racism, at times. Because we see it everywhere, we assume that it is normal. Since we hear it everywhere, we think of it as acceptable. We believe that it is an everyday thing for it is felt everywhere. In  commercials, we often see whitening creams, lotions, facial washes, and many more. We can't help but feel like this is a big factor in racism. If the commercials have shown ways to get a darker skin tone, would we still yearn for whiter skin? Would we still mock the African-Americans? 

Racism has a huge impact in people's lives. People are pressured to be what stereotype says they are. They strive to become what people say they should be. If they can't reach the standards, what would happen to them? As for those who are thought badly of, well, it affects them too. They think less of themselves. They wonder, is there something wrong with me? 

It doesn't matter where you come from or what you look like. People should be judged based on who they actually are. Not  by their looks. Not by their accents. Not by where they come from but by what is inside.

Soupy Sundays: On Writing Honest Reviews (2)

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Soupy Sundays is a weekly feature at Geeky Chiquitas, where we write discussion posts about our thoughts, feelings and opinions about certain topics.


ON WRITING HONEST REVIEWS

When Audrey Beryl and I created Geeky Chiquitas, we swore to ourselves to become honest with writing reviews. The beginning was simple. The main reason why we created a book blog in the first place was because we wanted to have an avenue where we could discuss books. It was easy because we weren't trying to live up to anyone's expectations and we were basically nobodies who could talk about anything or anyone without worrying about getting negative feedback.

2 months later, things are now completely different. Factor in ARCs, publishers, authors, book tours and more! Honestly, have you ever written a half-assed review? A review which you wrote simply to please the author because you requested the book and are too embarrassed to give a low rating? A review which you wrote for a blog tour and had to pretend you liked the book enough to give it 3 stars? 

I don't know about you but I am guilty of doing these things, though embarrassed to admit it. Before everything got complicated, I used to write reviews on books that I read and bought for my own viewing pleasure. Because of that, I never had the pressure of pleasing the publisher the author or anyone else. It was so much easier for me to write reviews as honestly as possible, and it was never a problem for me if I was about to give something a really low rating. When we started getting review requests, it felt like a daze. You want US to review your book? It was such a surreal feeling that we accepted every single book and then when we discovered Netgalley and Edelweiss, we started requesting other books too. This was a huge milestone for us, but it had its limitations as well. 

So the question is: do you think it's okay to sugarcoat your reviews because you don't want to offend the author publisher or are part of a blog tour?

Well, the answer for me is... It depends. On what sugarcoating means in this context.

If sugarcoating means using less extreme or hateful words to lessen the blow and not trash talking the book, then it is okay because that's a sign of professionalism. 

If sugarcoating means pretending you liked the book and giving it 4 stars even if it just deserves 2, then the answer is always no.

The more bad books and arcs I read the less I became enthusiastic about book blogging. That's when the half-assed reviews came along. This realization came when I got into a reading slump. A slump that was caused by reading too many bad books and arcs and not wanting to finish them anymore. The solution? I cut back on arcs and started to read books I DID buy and want to read. It got easier after that.

Recently I wrote a 1.5 star review of an arc. And I felt no regrets doing so. When we created this blog, we promised to be honest and sincere in our words. That promise might have gotten lost along the way, but it's a vow we are determined to keep when writing our future reviews. We've had our fair shares of hate messages sent to us by authors who wanted us to give their work a high rating, but I'd much rather stay true to my principles then be a big suck-up.

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Soupy Sundays: Nice Guy Syndrome (1)

Soupy Sundays is a weekly feature at Geeky Chiquitas, where we write discussion posts about our thoughts, feelings and opinions about certain topics.

We decided to create a weekly feature! YAY! The idea came to mind when we realized how much feelings we had about things, and it was just impossible to keep them bottled inside.

So for the first topic of Soupy Sundays, we have decided to write about the Nice Guy Syndrome.

The Nice Guy Syndrome is a mental condition in which a heterosexual male feels personally victimized by women who don't want to date him, and also perpetuates the belief that women are either evil and/or stupid for choosing "jerks" for their boyfriends. Said "nice guy" feels as if you are obligated to date him just because he is a good listener or opens the door for you, or is basically the perfect 'gentleman' (whatever that even is).

SCENARIO:

Nice Guy: I like you.
Girl: I don't like you back.
Nice Guy: Why not? But I'm a nice guy!

He will say either one of these things and it's better to just completely avoid these kind of people.

1. BUT I WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU

This is one of the most common things nice guys say to make you feel guilty for not choosing them or
even agreeing to date them. Guess what? There's a thing called friendship and just because we are friends and you like me does NOT obligate me to like you back. Friendship does not equal to relationship and you must be delusional to even think that. In fact when "nice guys" start to like you sometimes friendships get destroyed because they accuse you of friendzoning them when in the first place you actually did start out as friends and now he feels as if you owe him a chance at a relationship. Sure, he might have given you advice, helped you with homework, listened to your problems or let you borrow his pencil, but you owe him nothing. The moment nice guy accuses you of leading him on or citing these instances to make you feel bad for rejecting him, GUESS WHAT NICE GUY IS NOT ACTUALLY NICE.

2. YOU ARE A CRUEL BITCH

Have you ever been called cruel or heartless? Nice guy uses this as an excuse for their rejection. They say that there's nothing wrong with him - it's you who's messed up, stupid, or have problems or issues for not liking him back. Nice Guy puts the blame on you, for something you have nothing to do with at all. He thinks that he's perfectly perfect, that if you're not interested in him, you're stupid and have no standards. You are cruel or heartless for not being interested in him. If he asks you out, it's basically impossible for him to accept a 'no' or take a hint that you're not at all interested. Instead, he concludes that you are either, playing hard to get, or are just a cruel, heartless bitch.

3. WHY DO YOU LIKE ASSHOLES AND JERKS

Nice Guy starts to wonder why you're with the guy that you're dating. He can't think of anything that the guy has that nice guy doesn't. They therefore conclude that the guy you are dating is an asshole and that you like to be treated like shit. Nice Guy then thinks that everything would be so much better if you would just date him. First of all, Nice Guy shouldn't conclude that the guy the you are dating is an asshole just because you chose him. He doesn't know everything so he has no right to judge. Second, no one likes to be treated like shit. It's stupid that nice guy would even think that! And lastly, the only reason that Nice Guy thinks the guy you're dating is an asshole is because he thinks that the guy stole you from him. You are not his property. You NEVER showed interest in him in the first place, and you owe him absolutely NOTHING.

4. THEN I SHOULD BECOME AN ASSHOLE
GUESS WHAT? You already are!

If you have said any of these things after getting rejected by a girl, SHUT UP! If you are pushing your niceness as a valid reason why anyone is obligated to like you back, then I'm sorry but you will find yourself in the 'friendzone' or whatever you call it for the rest of your life. Please do not confuse niceness for greatness, smartness, attractiveness or even kindness! Niceness is not a redeeming quality and it will not get you a girlfriend. And if you're still whining about how nice guys always finish last and that women have such bad taste in men, then take the hint: You are not a nice guy, but are actually a misogynistic jerk.

And don't even think about writing us off as misandrists or radical feminists.

Go find a hobby, you.

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